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Oct. 2nd, 2012 | 09:46 pm
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posted by: unowncafe in crazy_academics

Hi guys. I used to post here a lot about my roomates at my last college. I failed out of that college and now i go to a community college. I have never ever been good at school. I Just barely got through highschool. I failed my math class last semester (at the community college) and so i didn't take it this semester but i'm taking a different class. I only have one class because they canceled my other class. My goal is to go back to my original college because i want to and i loved it. My mom told me that she doesn't want me to go back there and fail out again because the first college was very expensive. I really really don't want to give up my dream of going back there. You can't really get a Job unless you go to college. It's like making me cry about thinking giving up going back to my original college. I love it that much.
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evilgerbil

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from: evilgerbil
date: Oct. 3rd, 2012 02:20 am (UTC)
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Are you "bad at school" because you are not interested in it, or is it because of your disability? I ask because college really isn't for everyone. And I don't think it's necessary to be successful in life. Is there anything you'd like to do, career wise? It seems achieving that should be your goal, rather than attending college for its own sake. Have you identified what caused you to do poorly at your original college? Maybe a counselor can help you work through some of that or help you develop a strategy for doing better.

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Jill

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from: unowncafe
date: Oct. 3rd, 2012 02:59 am (UTC)
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It's a combination of both of those. The subjects that i take (or had to take.) were either really boring or really interesting. The really boring classes bored me so i wouldn't do my homework, or i would get a project that actually hard and i didn't want to ask for any help because i hate asking for help so the project or homework or whatever would not get done. This could happen to in the interesting classes.

I really have no idea. I went to college because that's what you do after highschool. (which i hear is a thing a lot of kids do.) I really don't know what i want to do but if i don't complete college that won't matter much anyways.

Umm my roomates, and my teachers, and my math class was way too hard (and yes i did go for extra help but the little group was for an hour before class so i spent 2 1/2 hours on math three times a week and my brain imploded.) my second english teacher hated me and that 3 hours. So yeah.

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evilgerbil

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from: evilgerbil
date: Oct. 3rd, 2012 05:07 am (UTC)
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I have at least a few friends that are successful and never went to college. One is a photographer, one develops video games, one is in charge of marketing at her company. There are probably more, but I can only subtract people that I know for a fact went to college. I'm not advocating that you don't go, but that it is not the end of the world if you do not go, or postpone it a bit. I am an older student returning to college after an absence, so I have seen how it can be.

If there is not any pressure on you to make a lot of money, this might be a good opportunity to find out what you like. Volunteer with different organizations, enter a photography contest, write a short novel.. you can just experiment. It doesn't have to be anything big. It's ok if you don't know "what you want to be when you grow up." I think our society places too much importance on career when what is important is being happy and fulfilled (and having enough money from that career to be comfortable). Some people live to work, others work to live. You have a lot of time to figure it out, and getting yourself into debt at a more expensive school, just because it's what other people do, might not be the way to go. If you stick with the community college, you can take lots of courses than interest you rather than focusing on required classes for a major. It is more flexible, and a lot cheaper.

Other than that, I think you will have to work on your work ethic for school. I can understand that if you were just there to be there, you might have been lacking motivation for classes that bored you. It is easier when you know that taking a hard or boring class will help you achieve a dream, and harder when you are not sure what the point of it is. It's hard to ask for help, but it has to be done. my first time in college, I got my first D because I was really behind and too intimidated to ask the professor for help. I'd go to office hours and by the time it was my turn, I felt really stupid explaining my problem in front of everyone, so I'd just slink off. I ended up doing really poorly and withdrawing from school. It is definitely doable if you have the motivation. And confidence. lots of confidence.

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Teh Dino!

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from: dinogrrl
date: Oct. 3rd, 2012 07:59 pm (UTC)
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It is easier when you know that taking a hard or boring class will help you achieve a dream, and harder when you are not sure what the point of it is.

Definitely this.
I second the idea of using this time to take a variety of classes at the community college, check out their clubs/extracurriculars, and volunteer/work part-time to figure out what really draws your interest. It can be very tough to get through college if you have no goal for your time spent there.

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pineapple_sage

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from: pineapple_sage
date: Oct. 4th, 2012 01:26 pm (UTC)
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I agree with everyone else about using your time off to explore what kinds of career you want to go into as well as what courses are useful in your future desired career. It's much easier to get through a class when you can see how it relates to your interests.

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Novanglus

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from: novanglus
date: Oct. 3rd, 2012 02:45 am (UTC)
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What was it about your original college that you liked? It sounded as though you were pretty miserable there. If you were to go somewhere else, isn't it likely that you would grow to like it just as well or even more over time, especially if it was a place you ended up being successful?

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Jill

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from: unowncafe
date: Oct. 3rd, 2012 03:04 am (UTC)
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I did like a few of my teachers and i like the size of it. It's in the middle of nowhere but now i have a friend with a car. I liked living away from my parents. Oh i was totally miserable there that's why i have the 'brink of death' attached to my memories of lincoln. I really don't want to go anywhere else. The community college is Just like a detour so i don't talk to anyone there i only go to class and go home. I really have no interest in any other colleges. The exact reason for me going to the community college is because my mom didn't want me sitting around without anything to do.

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Novanglus

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from: novanglus
date: Oct. 3rd, 2012 03:51 am (UTC)
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> because my mom didn't want me sitting around without anything to do

That part is very good advice no matter what you end up doing. Getting back to college, or community college, or getting a regular job, or being a volunteer at something is an important part of your life, and helps you to become independent.

If you really want to go back to your original college, you may just need to tell yourself, "It will be hard work, but I'm going to work at the math and learn it well enough to pass, and that will be a real accomplishment."

Lots of people have been learning math through the Khan Academy videos:

http://www.khanacademy.org/

If you make a schedule for yourself, work though a whole series of them, and evaluate yourself, then you may be able to take the regular college math class and find it easy and familiar.

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Jill

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from: unowncafe
date: Oct. 3rd, 2012 04:42 am (UTC)
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It's also how expensive it was. It was like 26k for a semester. (Which is another reason she sent me to a community college because she couldn't pay for the school.)

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evilgerbil

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from: evilgerbil
date: Oct. 3rd, 2012 05:08 am (UTC)
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Khan Academy rules! Definitely helped me through chemistry, and especially o-chem.

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Jill

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from: unowncafe
date: Oct. 3rd, 2012 04:42 am (UTC)
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No i don't.

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