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Trouble with professors :(

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Jul. 21st, 2012 | 11:53 pm
mood: sadsad
music: Mad world by Gary Jules
posted by: summermarie7 in crazy_academics

Has anyone ever had a professor make them want to cry or actually cry when they aren't around? Or made you feel so stupid you wanna just f***ing give up. I thought I was finally ok in school, guess not! Sigh... Will it every be ok? Or should I just give up now. 

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evilgerbil

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from: evilgerbil
date: Jul. 22nd, 2012 03:43 pm (UTC)
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I was doing research for a professor and ended up crying. He repeatedly forgot about me when we were supposed to be working in the lab together, and he would not give me a key when he said he was going to. I was sitting out in front of the lab, locked out, waiting for an hour when I had confirmed with him face to face that we were on, and I lost it and started crying. Nothing to do with my mental illness really, but there it is.

As a returning adult student, I have a unique perspective on professors. Some of them are huge egomaniacs, some of them are jerks, some of them are incompetent. A lot of them are not that sensitive to their students because they are teaching 5 classes with 100 people each in them, have their graduate students, office hours, and their own research. I'm a science major and I have heard from other people that sometimes the professors in my department just don't have the best social skills: they can be awkward, rather dense and not particularly sensitive. Don't give it. It probably has more to do with them than with you.

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Teh Dino!

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from: dinogrrl
date: Jul. 22nd, 2012 05:31 pm (UTC)
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Pretty much this. The chance of a professor actually having it out for you is pretty slim; more likely than not, they just fail at social interactions, and/or are so insanely busy that they just can't keep everything straight in their mind. The best advice I can give is to take a deep breath and keep going.

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natasha

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from: nulz
date: Jul. 22nd, 2012 09:16 pm (UTC)
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yup totally. they're very intelligent, of course, but i've found that a lot of them hardly know what's going on a lot of the time. which is annoying. but like you say, they're teaching so many students and will probably be undertaking their own research, so i guess you can understand if they're a bit short with you.

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Jill

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from: unowncafe
date: Jul. 22nd, 2012 06:52 pm (UTC)
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When i was back at my first college i had a second english teacher (not as english as a language i had two english classes and one was named 'first english' and the other 'second english' ) She was absolutely crazy. It was once a week and three hours long. After every class i went back to my room and cried about whatever she did. (it was from 6 at night to 9.) We didn't get along from the moment i stepped into class till our final. (and i didn't even pass the class.) You should never give up no matter what. I tried my hardest in that class so atleast she couldn't hate my work ethic. Keep trying! I'm sure you can do this.

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Jenn

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from: ennifer_jay
date: Jul. 24th, 2012 03:04 am (UTC)
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Yes. Yay ableism.

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monkey_bite

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from: monkey_bite
date: Jul. 31st, 2012 10:49 pm (UTC)
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Yessss.

I'm a research assistant at a lab right now and my professor is cruel, demeaning, arrogant and then, sometimes, nice. It confuses the HELL out of me and makes me really on edge.

He was away for the past two weeks and was supposed to come back yesterday. I was so nervous I threw up, when I got into the lab I almost burst into tears right away, but managed to run to the bathroom and pull myself together. Then ten minutes later someone said he was still away and, in front of 6 other students - male students - I burst into tears.

It is embarrassing. And awful. Don't think it'll get better with him because he is just a prick and acts like that with everyone, but my plan is to just let him know what's going on with me - not from the angle that he should care about me, but about the fact that it's affecting my work. I'm hoping maybe we can communicate over email or something, but who knows.

Anyways, I don't think this is helpful... sorry. Everyone I work with just told me that I shouldn't let it get to me. I've tried printing out pictures of him and drawing on them to make him look silly or to take out some of my aggression. I've been told to imagine him as small and myself as big. When he says hurtful things I can hardly hear him because he is soooo tiny and insignificant. Because I'm a real nice giant I'll do some things for him, but I know in my big-ol' heart that he is insignificant.

If you come up with any other coping strategies I'd love to hear them. And if I come up with any more I'll let you know. Good luck.

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monkey_bite

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from: monkey_bite
date: Jul. 31st, 2012 11:29 pm (UTC)
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